But we need to . And so one of them is the idea of personal competencethat "I can do something." And the idea of emotional resilience, just this idea of bouncing back from stressors is super important now. And I think if we can view those things as building blocks towards, you know, a healthier self, then they don't become something that we just try to avoid altogether. And sobut he learned, he got swim lessons. But a tenacious and resourceful aeronautical engineering team at Grumman changed all of that. That's the only way to keep the roads clear." - A.P.J. I can get up and make my bed today. Interestingly, behavioral scientists have learned that working your bodys muscles regularly seems to positively improve the thinking processes in your brain, increasing your resilience. So when it comes to issues of like anxiety and depression and like you said, cultivating a positive experience towards that, I think if we view it as, as part of the load that we have, part of our of the trials that we experience that can probably help. Resilience is a process of adapting and recovering in the face of adversity, bouncing back from difficult experiences. - Japanese proverb. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. And we recited the theme"I am a beloved daughter of Heavenly Parents with a divine nature and eternal destiny.". As this is the time for men and women to perform their labors in preparation to meet God once again, [5] our capacities will be stretched, hope dimmed in certain moments, and plans shattered by cruel winds of fate and reality. Two months later, renewed and indomitable, she once again entered the water off Catalina Island, determined to succeed in what no woman had done before. It's something I've been become very skilled at over the years. And it's like, "Yes, everyone is going through somethinga pandemic," and then plus some. Each faced potential disaster but with willpower endured and thrived. Just decide what you can do, and then choose something in that sphere that you will do. That is the essence of emotional resilience broader shoulders. What we do know, however, is that the path through mortality has hazards, risks, and perils. Just because I realized it's okay to go through this.". I have a granddaughter, Karina, with cerebral palsy, a condition I am certain she accepted before coming to this earth. And then so that when it comes to me again, I say, "Oh, yeah, I can deal with that," instead of just avoiding it altogether, which then leads to no strength. Second, whom shall I marry? The new content, " Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience ," is part of Church's Self-Reliance Services training materials for Latter-day Saints and friends of the faith. Whether you are currently feeling overwhelmed or not, these are great skills to have in your arsenal. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. Sure. They're going to church, they feel the Spirit. When change happens, and you know, all of a sudden the script gets flipped, and we think, "Oh, well then was I wrong in the first place?" And then kind of as a follow up to that, I mentioned this to you before we got on the line, but I have a friend who has struggled since she was in her late teens with anxiety, and specifically panic attacks, and recently kind of had a resurgence of these panic attacks, and she said that she felt like, as a result, she was shutting down and kind of trying not to feel anything. I mean I guess you'd go back to last pandemic, you know, the Spanish flu, but that's been 100 years ago. And again, just like we talked about before, we are going to have negative experiences, it's part of living in a fallen world. Developing Resilience under Stress "). Is that going to cure my depression? - Jose N. Harris, "You all know that I have been sustained throughout my life by three saving gracesmy family, my friends, and a faith in the power of resilience and hope. I don't need to be worried about the fact that I'm stressed about something.". . ", When you think about it from a gospel perspective, that's the whole point. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. I take the best, get rid of the rest, and move on, realizing that you can make a choice to take the good." From one of the support boats, her mother and her trainer pleaded with her not to give up. We feel like Alma the younger when he was in his three days of darkness, he said he wanted to be extinct, both soul and body, so that he didn't have to face God. There's just this kind of strange phenomenon that seems to account for, you know, again, when you're talking about these foundational building blocks of emotional resilience, they said, "There's just this one right here that we know is there. ", And that encapsulates everything for me. See all these other people that feel the spirit? You're sayingI'm going to deal with a little bit of this so I learn how to experience it, I learn how to deal with it. And like you said earlier, here we are, literally in year three of this. So procrastination can get you and also what I call "Lack of sustained effort." Exactly. As Elder Bruce C. Hafen explained, Because of the Atonement, [we] can learn from [our] experience without being condemned by it. [8] Seek to find meaning in the disappointments as you rise again. And so I just kept thinking, "Okay, this is going to change," or "This change isn't going to last long," you know. They, too, are faced with conforming to societal norms that dont always match up with the principles of the gospel. These graces have carried me through difficult times and they have brought more joy to the good times than I ever could have imagined." "That does not mean we should stop trying, trying to move forward, no matter how frustrating or seemingly unfruitful, will yield benefits." Because really, up until maybe the last 75 years, your main concerns were food and shelter. And then by the end of your life, you can hit every ball that comes at you. This is your testimony. I'm having a hard time making friends.". - Mildred Witte Stouven, "Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you." I think it's Heavenly Father is trying to teach us how to, you know, deal with stressors. When this happens, practice being still and focused on the present (see " 1. And here we are still curving. When he was trying to say he was wrong, he would say, "I was w." Doctrine and Covenants 6:36. I cant stress too strongly that decisions determine destiny. [15] A Message from the First Presidency, January 16, 2018; lds.org. Later in my life, while serving as mission president in Oregon, I visited the Evergreen Aviation and Space Museum and was surprised and excited to see the real Hellcat preserved in just the way it looked in 1942 and flight-ready. And Heavenly Father's giving us tools to deal with this. But he did a great job and now he's an amazing public speaker. Happiness gives height. ", And I think that everybody listening probably is like, "I know exactly what you're talking about." He will bless you and tenderly lead you, for joy cometh in the morning [24] and men are that they might have joy. [25] Keep it simple. We get in trouble when we get too rigid in our thinking as well, when we think there's just one way to do things. We need to do like Elder Bednar counsels and says, "Teach me how to hit curveballs." Unlike a typical church class, no one was assigned to be the teacher. And quite frankly, if we haven't learned our lesson by now, we probably won't learn it, I almost feel like going to Heavenly Father and saying, "Look, you can probably just take it now. [9] William Clayton, Come, Come, Ye Saints; lds.org. - Bram Stoker, "Resilience is very different than being numb. Has the worlds influence purveyed a new and improved model of the disciples life that creeps into ours? And we certainly know people who are kind of stuck in that situation where they just feel like . I know of no experience more sweet or feelings more precious than to heed a prompting, only to discover that the Lord has answered anothers prayer through you., Thomas S. Monson Find it and prosper." Well, and stress is in just like most things, when it becomes extreme, then it does become damaging to us. But, you keep going." And he literally couldn't even pronounce the word. With that clearly stated, why are so many off-center? I don't want to take that away from you. Listen as one stake president recently addressed the most significant spiritual and temporal challenges facing his stake: Complacency, worldly distractions, immorality, and the philosophies of men. And Arthur Fonzarelli was the the coolest guy there. And it's one of thethere are, in the book, I talk about seven kind of pillars or tenets of emotional resilience, that as we increase our ability in each of these areas that we're going to increase our emotional resilience. This is a dangerous deception. And so you have a different place you belong up here on the counter, instead of in the garbage can. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts, noted Winston Churchill. And the reason was, he's spending about 20% of his energy moving forward and 80% of his energy trying not to drown. Sincerely giving thanks not only helps us recognize our blessings, but it also unlocks the doors of heaven and helps us feel God's love." Thomas S. Monson | The Divine Gift of Gratitude" Topics: Gratitude & Thanksgiving, Prayer +8 Okay, David, I have one last question for you before we get to our all in question. Episode 162. - Beatrix Potter, "All we are asked to bear we can bear. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you've lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that's good." - Elizabeth Edwards "My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. Now she was determined to be the first woman to swim the California Catalina Channel. And then He's got these lines that are drawn over to the right hand side, and on the right hand side are these Christlike characteristics, things like patience and tolerance and understanding and diligence. |General Conference, October 5, 2002, Topics: Holy Ghost, Leadership, Personal Revelation, Revelation, Service, What are the three most important decisions? Right. I know, several 1000 things that won't work.". But Florence was even more devastated when she discovered she had tragically miscalculated her effort and distance. And I really loved those, I wondered if you could explain a little bit about some of those roadblocks to personal competence. Build it strong. And when we say negative affect, we just simply mean negative emotions. - Baroness Orczy, "We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world." Well, and Iyou're absolutely right, Morgan, I think this is something that's probably touched all of us at one point. The following quotes provide an insight into what resilience is and the human ability to withstand pressure and overcome difficulty. In His Hands exemplifies the highest level of resiliency and capacity to thrive in spite of. - Greg Kincaid, "There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. I love too how you said "Very rarely in history have people been going through the same thing at the same time." . - Soren Kierkegaard, "A man can only do what he can do. And just because we try to quantify everything, you know, chemically and physically and scientifically, it's not chemical, and it's not physical and not scientific, it's spiritual. And it must run in the name because I've got it too. As an inventor, courageous Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. But David Morgan is a big believer that the gospel has given us the tools to help us not only survive, but thrive, as we seek to cultivate emotional resilience. And I think that's why He just says, "Trust me." The emotional resilience materials are currently available in English, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Russian and other languages, with 10 additional languages forthcoming. This workbook can help you learn and put into practice principles of faith, education, hard work, and trust in the Lord. I'll show you how to do that. - Helen Keller, "It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. But we like consistency, as human beings. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living." Well, and I love how you say in that quote that I read that all of us have been pressed to our limits. She was utterly exhausted and was attended to medically. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen. And this is the idea ofthat you can do something that is effective, but if you don't do it long enough, then it has less effect. My beloved brothers and sisters, fear not. But everyone in the world is dealing with the same thing at the same time and that usually doesn't happen. If, however, you are a mere mortal, this week's episode is here to save the day. And Ill know the when and how. And I wondered, I have a lot of friends that have struggled with anxiety and family that struggles with depression. Audio of Elder Timothy J. Dyches' BYU-Idaho devotional speech, Spring 2018. - Osho, "Sadness gives depth. Jason Sudeikis as Ted Lasso showed emotional intelligence that made him more effective as a leader. But I wonderedto start us off, why would you say emotional resilience is so important for people in 2022? - Louisa May Alcott, "He who has a why to live can bear almost any how." 2Timothy 1:7For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. Sincerely giving thanks not only helps us recognize our blessings, but it also unlocks the doors of heaven and helps us feel Gods love., Thomas S. Monson Prior to this airplane being commissioned, we were doing poorly in aerial dogfights in the Pacific theater. - Friedrich Nietzsche, "Fall seven times; stand up eight." Minute after minute, hour after hour ticked by as Chadwick resolutely swam on, despite bone-chilling cold, unpredictable currents and terribly dense fog. Well, I think the reason that Connor and Davidson found that and I'm sure it probably drove them crazy when they were looking at that, because they're just going, "How do we quantify this? And then I wonder then if we'll find, "Oh, hey, I have more energy to deal with this than I thought I did. Well, I should start by telling listeners that this is kind of a funny moment, because David and I have emailed back and forth for years now and this is the first time that I've ever seen his face. Because of His atoning sacrifice, He stands as our Advocate and Savior. You are a child of Heavenly Father, which automatically infers potential and potential assistance and all those sorts of things. We only need to find them and move on with our lives." And that's okay to have that stress. Your commitment to follow the Savior by making covenants with Him and then keeping those covenants will open the door to every spiritual blessing and privilege available to men, women, and children everywhere .The ordinances of the temple and the covenants you make there are key to strengthening your life, your marriage and family, and your ability to resist the attacks of the adversary." And he'd make the sound of a W but he couldn't actually say it. And he did not like swimming at all. And they bring to mind something else, too. Edison replied, "I didnt fail 1,000 times. And rigid thinking, we'll say, "Well, it's stinks in Orlando because it rains, you know, fairly frequently, and you can't have parades in the rain," . And I don't know how all that shakes out. Not only was Florence Chadwick the first woman to swim the Catalina Channel but she beat the standing men's record by two hours! |First Presidency Easter Message [Thomas S. Monson, Henry B. Eyring, Dieter F. Uchtdorf], LDS Church News, March 31, 2013, Topics: Atonement, Death, Easter, Love, Resurrection, First Presidency Easter Message [Thomas S. Monson, Henry B. Eyring, Dieter F. Uchtdorf], LDS Church News, March 31, 2013. - Helen Keller, "I spent my young adult years postponing many of the small things that I knew would make me happy 1 was fortunate enough to realize that I would never have the time unless I made the time. Learn. In the next life, Ill see, If I remain faithful now, What He first meant me to be. If you take away that foundation, the whole thing crumbles to the ground, spectacularly. And then the rest of my life began." - Elizabeth Goudge, "I know not all that may be coming, but be it what it will, I'll go to it laughing." The present is here, live it., Topics: Education, Knowledge, Remembrance. ", And it leads me to act proactively instead of just being acted upon. And I think our challenges are going to be more emotional than they ever have been in the history of the world. I mean, that's that goes back to Jesus Christ and the Sermon on the Mount, right, and talking about the wise man building his house on a rock or building his house on the sand. You know, it didn't last the rest of my life, but I remember it. Your personal conscience always warns you as a friend before it punishes you as a judge.. I think I used an example in the book, which dates me from Happy Days. I've dealt with so many people over the course of my career, and even people with very, very significant mental health issues like schizophrenia, where you know, people that are actively hallucinating and actively delusionalthere's always something you can do. And I think that the topic of emotional resilience is more needed in our world today and just a really healthy approach to mental health. We need to lose that idea that we are these kind of unworthy creatures. You, as His son or daughter, were chosen by Him to come to earth at this precise time, to be a leader in His great work on earth. Because the end destination really, in most cases, is less important than the journey you took to get there. Experience all the dualities. I think that a lot of times people feel like . And yet here in the Doctrine and Covenants, it talks about the complete opposite of that experience, that our confidence is strong in the presence of God that we walk in there. Thanks to Derek Campbell for his help with this episode. According to Darwins, Never lose sight of your purpose on earth and your divine destiny. by LDS365 | Sep 3, 2021 The Church has released a new manual, Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience. He is a regular presenter at BYU Women's Conference and BYU Education Week. And I wish we could all just have a big giant meeting all of humanity, and just for once acknowledge"You're going to fail. There's, sometimes there's issues of worthiness, right? The spiritually resilient emerge through the bitter better. He has a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master's in counseling and guidance and a PhD in counseling psychology, all from Brigham Young University. . - Kahlil Gibran, "Search for the seed of good in every adversity. 1: Building Emotional Strength in the Lord. Because so often, we have the opposite experience. That means to me that being all in means giving it everything. - Elizabeth Edwards, "My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. I love the way you put that because that same friend, we were talking and she said, "I feel like when these things happen, immediately my response is, what have I done wrong?". Today is your lucky day." He says, "I know what I'm doing. For Emotional Resilience class, a Self-Reliance Program of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saintshttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media/video/201. - C. G. Jung, "Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us." Well it's just like you said, COVID-19 has kind of cast a spotlight on how we deal with stressors. And say, "You know what, He still feels that way about me so I can get up off the dirt and do something about it.". And just last night, I was like, "Heavenly Father, if you will take this from me," I said, "I will serve you for the rest of my life regardless, but if you will take this from me, I'll be able to like work stronger and faster. But that doesn't mean that addressing things from a spiritual perspective is not part of the equation. I heard recently, I was talking to a friend who had been to see her endocrinologist and the endocrinologist said that she had seen eight times the number of women since the beginning of the pandemic with autoimmune issues, because of the additional stress that the pandemic has brought into people's lives. Choose happiness. He is the author of multiple books, including his most recent book, Enduring the Refiners Fire: Emotional Resilience for Latter-day Saint Trials. So I think that'sand I know, that's a very kind of general and generic way to describe that, but I think if we can recognize that these things are normal, then that automatically alleviates some of the stress from it. And then the Young Men's theme is: "I am a beloved Son of God, and he has a work for me to do." Everything is spiritual, Morgan. The resilient humbly adapt and learn; a failure is a form of helpful feedback for the next attempt. And then as He helps us along, we become better. It's that bedrock identity issue as to who you are, and not only just who you are, but that you are divine. "If you believe you cannot change something, then your efforts to change will likely be less motivated than they otherwise could be. A course of study on this topic has . Wherefore, if ye shall press forward, feasting upon the word of Christ, and endure to the end, behold, thus saith the Father: Ye shall have eternal life. [6]. My own journey has varied between these two extremes. Another thing that you talk about kind of being an initial way that Satan tries to attack us is to make us feel like we can't change, and you write this, "Often I hear people lament that they cannot change certain negative personality characteristics, claiming, 'That's just the way I am.' [P]sychological resilience refers to the ability to use personal qualities to withstand pressure. Throughout all recorded scripture, we read of so many individuals who were resilient. Helaman said it this way in reference to doubt not, fear not: [R]emember, remember that it is upon therockof our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build yourfoundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mightystorm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall. But man, we've got to start thinking differently because just like you've experienced, and just as I've experienced, change is inevitable. So I think our society has just changed to the point where Heavenly Father, in order to continue to bless us with challenges has had to shift those challenges anymore. To me, there is nothing more important and life-altering than to develop a positive outlook. [8] Bruce C. Hafen, The Atonement: All for All, Ensign, May 2004; lds.org. And so you talk about accepting stress and the ability that it has to strengthen us and to make us better. And I think yeah, it's very normal to to want to do that. D Dr. David T. Morgan, PhD| Psychologist | Author | Speaker This belief cast us as observers instead of actors in our life story. Sometimes people have very ingrained behaviors, even those that might be influenced by brain chemistry, and feel helpless to do anything about it. But I wonderedwhat is it, David, that keeps us from embracing change? [26] Robert Keen, How Firm a Foundation; lds.org. But now you are Bonnie's toy." I reflect back on my education and my education at BYU culminated in 1999, with me walking across the stage of the Marriott center to get my degree. For the purpose of facilitating the class, full resources can be found at https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/self-reliance/course-materials/emotional-resili. Sometimes we don't feel like we can. In the course manual, emotional resilience is defined as the following: "The ability to adapt to emotional challenges with courage and faith centered in Jesus Christ. Because you can'tif you're built on something solid, then you can withstand the shaking and the shuffling. Emotional Resilience. That sounds uncomfortable." - Brooke Shields, "Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up." Title Page. And I could say, "Well, clearly diet and exercise don't work because it's been a whole five minutes and five push ups later and I'm still the same." "Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before. Hope is a vital and critical component of life. And that's where you start. We like things that are predictable, that we can deal with. Elder Dyches attended Brigham Young University, where he earned a bachelors degree in university studies. And Joseph Smith, who, although tarred and feathered one painful, winter night, arose the next morning and preached a sermon without mentioning the violence that had been inflicted upon him. He was not a very strong swimmer. And we know that about the chronic effects of stress, that stress and anxiety have a similar kind of physiological reaction in the body. [16] Russell M. Nelson, Let Us All Press On, Ensign, May 2018; lds.org. And I think everybody listening probably falls under one of two campseither you know someone who feels like they are past help, or the person themselves feels like their past help as far as spirituality goes. Like, you know, an extra like a, you know, a pay raise, or something like that, or good health. . There is always a seed of good. [23]. Thanks for having me. |The Search For Jesus, Prayer is the passport to spiritual power., Thomas S. Monson I was like, "No, what are you talking about, we're gonna be done with this by May, we're gonna done this by June." Like knives in the refiners fire, Like clay in the Masters hands, The Lord molds us with His tool: trials. Using gospel principles he teaches how to improve anxiety, depression and emotional resilience. But after everything, and even when the skies turn scarlet and threatening, I still believe that if we are lucky enough to be alive, we must give thanks for the miracle of every moment of every day, no matter how flawed. David Morgan has devoted a great deal of time to understanding practical ways we can develop . And if Satan can get us to not believe that, it's really just kind ofhacks away at the foundation of your house. I lovethat kind of segues well into this idea of tenacity, which is something that you talk a lot about, you give several examples, including Thomas Edison. So they both built a house, but it was when the adversity came that you saw the true nature of that house. So, and I hear you, I don't like change either. David Fletcher and Mustafa Sarkar (2016) And but Forky believes he's garbage, and he keeps trying to jump into the garbage can. Setbacks and comebacks are just part of the journey.